Reflection + Intention = Balance

IRLFeb 20, 2018by Jessica Lutz Comments

The thing I’ve struggled most with in life is having to admit when I’m wrong. I’ve spent a lot of time getting very comfortable with being wrong instead of apologizing, learning something about myself, and moving on. The thing that’s saved me? Real, honest to God reflection and crafting the very real art of being willing to think bigger than this moment.

I steal moments to reflect and think when I can: on the bus, in the shower, before I go to sleep at night, when I’m chopping vegetables… There’s always time.

What do I want to be remembered for? What will they say about me at my funeral? What do I want my life to look like? What am I doing today that my future self will thank me for? What am I working toward? Who do I want to be?

Being a stubborn, unaccountable person isn’t really in line with who I’m trying to become. Being a directionless mope isn’t either.

When my actions aren’t in line with my aspirations, I know what I need to do. It’s never fun, but it’s worth it.

Reflection is scary and overwhelming and easier not to do. Of course, it is. If you can convince yourself you don’t see a glaring flaw, maybe it isn’t real after all. I mean, who wants to admit they’re angry at their best friend, unhappy in their marriage, stuck in their career, or afraid of failure? It hurts, to be honest with yourself and you can either deny or accept the charges.

If you choose to accept your intense, naked-in-front-of-the-mirror reflections, the dividends pay off in the form of a life lived with intention. If you’re regularly reflecting and setting intentions based on your reflections, you’re well on your way to creating your own brand of balance. Just like the truth, you’ll know balance by the way it feels.

The clearer I get about what I want and who I want to be, the easier it is to find balance in life. Not ‘how can I do everything and do it perfectly’ balance, but a bigger, more purposeful balance. The kind of balance that you can feel in the moment.

We do so much that doesn’t serve us, and when it’s our own doing it can feel like admitting defeat to call ourselves out. Be gentle and yourself permission to fail, learn, and try again. You’re human and you will make mistakes. No one builds a life they’re proud of overnight; you’re a work in progress.

If you show up authentically, put in the work, and admit when you’re wrong, it’s only a matter of time until things start to feel less off-kilter and more aligned.



Jessica is a directionless soul turned writer with a penchant for helping others work through periods of uncertainty and potential change. She currently writes for Bankable by Forbes and has previously written for Holl & Lane Magazine, Women for One, and at